If a friend tells you that they have experienced sexual violence there are a few things you can do to be supportive and help them: 
  • Be prepared to believe them – don’t question their judgement. 
  • The most important thing is to listen and not to ask lots of questions. 
  • Don’t ask them how much they’ve had to drink or question their behaviour. 
  • Respect boundaries – they may not want a hug at this time. Always ask them first. 
  • Help your friend find expert support. 
  • Talk to your friend about the services on the previous page - external help if you have been affected by sexual violence - and support them to contact them if this is what they want. 
  • Go with them if they want you to, but always be prepared to leave when appropriate. Always ask. It’s up to them to decide what to do next. 

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